222017May
Role of Emotions

Role of Emotions

This article is about the role of emotions and, more specifically, how emotions are helpful even when they are unpleasant. Even though emotions are generally a useful tool, people can run into problems with them when they experience too much or too little of an emotion; or when they experience an emotion at an inappropriate…

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202017May
SOME STEPS TO EASE COMING OUT TO ASIAN PARENTS 

SOME STEPS TO EASE COMING OUT TO ASIAN PARENTS 

by Dr Sam Tan, Senior Clinical Psychologist In a previous article, we explored how cultural narratives can add on another layer of complexity in the coming out process for Asian LGBTIQ people. In this article, we will explore some ways to deal with these issues. Step 1. Evaluation Ask yourself the following questions: 1. Why…

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172017May
Crisis Management

Crisis Management

by Dr Sam Tan, Senior Clinical Psychologist As cliché as it may be, we will all experience emotional crises in our lives. It is an inevitable part of our lives. Emotional crises occur when life changes occur in an intensity or frequency that overwhelms our usual abilities to cope. Mood changes such as numbing, depression,…

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152017May
COMING OUT TO ASIAN PARENTS

COMING OUT TO ASIAN PARENTS

by Dr Sam Tan, Senior Clinical Psychologist Bring glory to the family  Don’t shame the family; or make us lose Face Don’t air dirty laundry in public These are the implicit cultural injunctions that underpin a lot of Asian societies and cultures. And they add on another level of complexity in the coming out process…

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142017May
Tips to Coming Out

Tips to Coming Out

Coming out is one of the biggest milestones in the life of someone from the LGBTI community . It can be a freeing and liberating experience. It is also a nerve wracking prospect that is associated with a lot of anticipatory anxiety. Every person’s experience is different.  below are some tips and points for consideration…

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132017May
Finishing Unfinished Business with Unsent Letters

Finishing Unfinished Business with Unsent Letters

by Dr Sam Tan, Senior Clinical Psychologist, Centre for Human Potential Chris hated how he automatically cringed and stepped back when someone like Arden walked pass him on the road. Arden had been Chris’ tormentor for the 5 years he was working. He found out that Chris was gay and started to taunt him, insult…

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62017May
Jane Goodall, Mindfulness and Our Emotions

Jane Goodall, Mindfulness and Our Emotions

by Dr Sam Tan (Wee Hong), Senior Clinical Psychologist Dr Jane Goodall, the primatologist sat in the forest occasionally writing into her small notebook. She would look up from her writing and peer through her binoculars at the scene that unfolded in front of her eyes. Without a rifle to protect her against the great…

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42017May
Perils of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Perils of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Dr Sam Tan, Clinical Psychologist When Adam got gay bashed walking done the street holding his boyfriend’s hand. He did not expect the emotional aftermath to be worse off than his broken nose and jaw. He started experiencing flashbacks and nightmares. He felt jumpy and on edge most of the time. He also felt fearful…

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