If I am gay does that mean I need to hang out with other gay people.
The answer is you can hang out with who you feel comfortable and who gives you the support you need. Many people feel that by hanging out with others who share something in common like being gay is a good way to find compatibility. It very well may be.
When you think about members of any community you will find many classifications those who are the cute ones, the physical ones or jocks, the smart ones the ones with money or ones with out. You get the picture. The question is what makes you a good fit with some one. Is it more important to find some one who is gay to be your friend or some one who shares similar interests such as hobbies or sports.
The answer has to be a combination of both. If you can find a gay person who understands what you are going through but also likes to do similar things then thats the bonus. You have a great friend. There is nothing more rewarding than sharing your sexuality in common along with some hobbies or sports. This does not mean you don’t want straight friends. Find people who support you for who you are and you are likely to have a great friend.
Here are some classifications within the Gay community.
Twinks are generally quite young (18 to mid-20′s), skinny, have essentially no body hair and may frequently be found applying foundation or fake tanning lotion.
Essentially, this is a Twink with muscles. This can also apply to twinks as they get a little older and grow out of the initial:
The Bear is the polar opposite of the Twink. Bears are large and in charge, wouldn’t dream of shaving ANY of their body hair.
Cubs are younger versions of bears. Just like in the wild. Cubs are going to be smaller, younger and have less hair (usually) than their Bear counterparts. It’s not uncommon to see a Bear & Cub couple.
The Otter label is either newer or just a lot less known than the others. There are also a couple differing opinions on what this means… but essentially it’s a sub-category of Bears. Otters are skinnier, but still rock the full-out body hair.
This is pretty self-explanatory, but it refers to someone who typically likes to date larger people. This isn’t a strictly gay term either,
Lipstick refers to those lesbians who are ultra-girly.
A Butch Lesbian is one who is more masculine looking and usually tends to dress in a similar manner.
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